Why High-Achieving Women Feel Lost in the Bedroom (And How To Fix It)
When was the last time you truly felt confident in the bedroom? For many high-achieving women, intimacy is the one area of life where they feel stuck. They’re crushing it in business, handling everything at home, but behind closed doors? It’s complicated.
In this episode of The CEO’s Wingwoman Podcast, I sat down with Australia’s favourite spicy relationship and intimacy consultant, Courtney Nolan, to unpack how confidence in the bedroom ripples into every aspect of life. If you’ve ever felt like you avoid intimacy, struggle with initiating, or simply want to elevate your connection, this conversation is for you.
Here are three key takeaways from our chat that could change the way you approach intimacy, relationships, and even business.
1. Confidence in the Bedroom is Confidence Everywhere
The way you feel about intimacy is a direct reflection of how you show up in life, when you’re connected to yourself and your desires, that energy spills over into business, friendships, and leadership.
Courtney points out that, “It’s not just about sex—it’s about how you show up in a conversation, how you feel pitching an offer, or walking into a boardroom. It’s a feeling.” When women own their confidence intimately, they feel magnetic, powerful, and grounded in their entire identity. The way you carry yourself changes. Your decision-making sharpens. You stop second-guessing and start stepping up.
2. Avoiding Intimacy is Often Avoiding Discomfort
If you’ve ever found yourself saying, I just don’t have the energy, or I don’t know where to start, you’re not alone. Many women default to avoiding intimacy because it feels easier than confronting insecurities.
Courtney explains, “We’re pre-wired to stay in our comfort zones. If you know that in order to move past something you have to put yourself out there, the fear of rejection creeps in.” This applies to the bedroom just as much as a business—whether it’s launching a new offer or deepening your relationship, moving past avoidance is the key to transformation.
3. Simple Shifts Create Big Change
If you’re not sure where to start, small actions make a massive difference. Something as simple as a 20-second kiss or a weekly relationship check-in can rewire the way you connect with your partner.
Courtney suggests, “A 20-second kiss every day—it’s just long enough to relax into it and feel connected.” And if communication feels like a hurdle, try a weekly check-in. Instead of just talking about schedules and logistics, create space to discuss emotions, needs, and desires in a safe way. These micro-moments add up and create lasting intimacy.
The Bottom Line? It’s All Connected.
When women step into their confidence intimately, they step into their power everywhere. It’s about more than just sex—it’s about self-expression, confidence, and the energy you bring into every part of life. If you’ve been avoiding the conversation, now is the time to open the door.
If you’re ready to start this journey, check out Courtney’s website at CourtneyNolan.com and take the first step toward building deeper intimacy and unshakable confidence.
And if you loved this conversation, let me know—maybe it’s time we bring Courtney’s Hotline to the podcast! 😉
